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Why you need a bridal buffer

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How do you ask for help? You may think you are superhuman on your wedding day and can do everything, but this is a recipe for chaos and stress. Wedding planning is an ideal time to master the art of the ask.

Kara Maureen has a fascinating job. She is a Bridal Coach that specializes in navigating all the family drama, identity issues, emotional challenges and mental transformations that come with planning a wedding.

So when Robin asked her how to limit chaos and stress on the wedding day, she had a very different answer than a wedding planner would. She said it was time for bridesmaids to set up and do their original job: keep away (modern day) evil spirits and protect your sanity from toxicity, triggers and let’s just say it… that one person that sets you off. You know who, right?

But you need to ask your bridesmaids and trusted circle for help.

It’s not only okay to ask your bridesmaids and friends for help, it’s an honor. There is such a sense of trust and respect when a bride or groom asks someone for help on their wedding day.

You ask your favorite Aunt Sue to help organize the big family? She will talk about that for years after the wedding! And it takes it off your plate. It’s a win-win.

What is holding you back from asking for help on the wedding day? Feel like you are burdening someone? Do you feel nervous about handing over a task to someone who might not follow through with your vision?

In this video, Kara explains how to surrender those thoughts and get the help you deserve on this special day.

Who's in this video?

Kara Maureen
BRIDAL COACH

Who's in this video?

Kara Maureen
BRIDAL COACH

How do you ask for help? You may think you are superhuman on your wedding day and can do everything, but this is a recipe for chaos and stress. Wedding planning is an ideal time to master the art of the ask.

Kara Maureen has a fascinating job. She is a Bridal Coach that specializes in navigating all the family drama, identity issues, emotional challenges and mental transformations that come with planning a wedding.

So when Robin asked her how to limit chaos and stress on the wedding day, she had a very different answer than a wedding planner would. She said it was time for bridesmaids to set up and do their original job: keep away (modern day) evil spirits and protect your sanity from toxicity, triggers and let’s just say it… that one person that sets you off. You know who, right?

But you need to ask your bridesmaids and trusted circle for help.

It’s not only okay to ask your bridesmaids and friends for help, it’s an honor. There is such a sense of trust and respect when a bride or groom asks someone for help on their wedding day.

You ask your favorite Aunt Sue to help organize the big family? She will talk about that for years after the wedding! And it takes it off your plate. It’s a win-win.

What is holding you back from asking for help on the wedding day? Feel like you are burdening someone? Do you feel nervous about handing over a task to someone who might not follow through with your vision?

In this video, Kara explains how to surrender those thoughts and get the help you deserve on this special day.

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    I will kick things off here... I've been married for a long time, but you always remember your wedding day. The good memories stand the test of time and all the little issues tend to be forgotten over the years. Sorta.

    It's a funny thing how pivotal this time is for your relationships with family, future family (in laws!) and your "best" friends. It's been 25 years since my own wedding and I still remember the name of the guy that reached out the week of the wedding asking where his invitation was (um, he wasn't invited!). We scrambled, changed seating arrangements, hotel roommates... and.... HE DIDN'T SHOW!!!

    Does he remember this? No way. But I do. Because I was the bride and it was my wedding.

    So- to this question about having a Bridal Buffer... my bridal buffer was my mom. She was my rock. My favorite person. I asked her to handle the rest of our family on the wedding day so that I could be present. We have a small family but they were all from out of town, coming to the "big city" and had A LOT of questions. I am so thankful my wonderful mother stepped up and was my bridal buffer on my own wedding day.

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    Robin Sloan, The Uncorked ProjectVerifiedRobin Sloan, The Uncorked Project

    I have been asked this so many times... does the wedding industry inflate prices when they hear it's a wedding?

    Here is my honest answer (as a former wedding photographer)... NO. Did I charge more for a wedding than a 50th birthday party or a family portrait session? Yes, absolutely. I charged A LOT more for a wedding.

    Was I taking advantage of the emotional sell? Absolutely not.

    The main reasons I charged more for a wedding were: the unseen amount of work involved in the 12+ months leading up to the wedding, the skill level needed on the day, the INTENSE pressure to create perfect "portfolio level work" no matter what the reality of the situation- but mostly it is to compensate for the time AFTER the wedding in post production.

    Little known fact about wedding photography - the real job is sitting at a computer editing photos. Photographers spend many hours behind the computer carefully selecting and editing photos. They make adjustments, crop, and adjust colors to ensure each image it's best. Don't forget the time it takes for batching, renaming, importing, exporting and uploading the photos and preparing them for delivery.

    Do you think this justifies why photographers charge more for weddings than for other types of shoots?

    AvatarCody Pettengill

    Couldn’t agree more! And on the videography side its an absolute ton of data + editing discipline.

    Its a double sided coin- weddings are extremely high pressure but also high reward when we nail it.

    Our products (photo video) in particular are the only thing that genuinely will last forever . Having fun and ALSO nailing the product is worth the price of entry and frankly more.

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