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What if I’m unhappy with my makeup trial?

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Q: What if I’m unhappy with my makeup trial?


So sometimes other makeup artists want to light me on fire when I say things like this. But I’ve been in the industry for twelve years, and what I can tell you for sure is that if you have a good makeup artist, there is no moment at the end where they’re like, TADA, here’s this beautiful look that I created for you. Do you like it? Instead, what they’re doing is having conversations with you ahead of time, ahead of that appointment, so they can get a feel for what you’re looking for. You probably have found already some looks from their portfolio that have helped guide them to the look that is your vision for the day. And then lastly, at the appointment, they’re asking for your feedback throughout the service and getting a feel for what you like or don’t like so that they can make tweaks, ultimately makeup. Yes, we are artists and we have egos, but the makeup is about you, the bride, right? And it’s not really about the artist. So you should feel comfortable sharing your feedback and asking for the help if you need it.

If you get to the end of that appointment and you still don’t like it, and you’ve done all of the previous steps that I mentioned, it is okay to just find a new artist. But if you suspect that you’re a person that might go into this feeling that way, I would recommend doing your trial way sooner than the recommended four to six weeks. Because if you don’t like that artist, you are going to need time to book another one. And often the most in demand folks, the best folks, if you will, will already be booked out for your date. So think it through.

Is it ok for me to ask my bridesmaids to not have my hairstyle on my wedding day?

Q: Is it ok for me to ask my bridesmaids to not have my hairstyle on my wedding day?


I guess my question is what bridesmaid is not going to be okay with you making a request like this? Do you need new friends if they won’t let you look special on your wedding day? I’m mostly kidding. But I have been a makeup artist for twelve years, and what I can say I don’t do hair. But what I can say when it comes to beauty, it is completely okay to make requests of your friends and the people that are in your party. Ideally, they already get that it’s a special day for you. So if you need my permission, or maybe you need the words, here’s how I might word it. I might say hey friend, I’m thinking of doing my hair like this as a braid or a bun or whatever it might be. I think that I’d like to have all the party members have a different hairstyle so that mine stands out. Are you cool with that? I bet they’ll be okay with it.

When should I do my wedding trial?

Q: When should I do my wedding trial?


Okay, hear me out. So, most of the time, in an ideal world, four to six weeks out is probably the best thing to do. But I would never call it a bridal trial or a tryout or even think of it that way. By the time you reach this appointment, you should already feel so confident in the artist that you’ve chosen that this is going to be a bridal preview or a preview of the day, your big day that coming up. If you insist on looking at it as a tryout, then I would say do it about twelve months out. Because, hey, if you wait until six weeks out and you don’t like what you get and you need to find a new artist, you will be hard pressed to find a better one that close to the big day.

What are the best bridal lipstick and foundations that will last all day? Tips for keeping the look all day long?

Q: What are the best bridal lipstick and foundations that will last all day? Tips for keeping the look all day long?


You know, maybe I’m a jerk for saying this, but I think you’re asking the wrong question and here’s why. I’ve been a makeup artist for twelve years. What I can tell you is the best foundation and the best lipstick on all of planet Earth ain’t shit if it’s not prepped the right way. Okay? So if you have oily skin, your prep is going to be different than if you have dry skin. So start right there. Hopefully your makeup artist knows this, okay? In general, oily skin is going to do best and behave best. Get the longest wear out of foundation options that have a matte finish. Doesn’t necessarily have to be full coverage to get a long wear. So remember that the other things to know if you’re oily is prep is going to look different. So you’re probably going to want, for example, your artist will clean your face with something like a bioderma or something like that. They should do a gentle exfoliation with something like these guys. This is just a peel pad, very gentle. Then they’re going to want to do some kind of ceramide serum that is going to keep the skin and the moisture barrier stable. So you’ll be less likely to have oil breakthrough and imbalance interacting with your makeup. Lastly, a moisturizer with mattifier in it will be really helpful. I’m going to show you what I use this guy. Different makeup artists will have different products in their kit. That’s completely okay. But you do want a skin routine that is mattifying and then a priming option that is also mattifying, and a foundation option that is matte to get the longest wear for oily skin. Hopefully they know that if you have dry skin, you want something completely different. None of that matte stuff, mattifying options, none of that serves you. If you have dry skin, remember that too. If you have dry skin, you’re going to probably want a foundation that has a more radiance to it. For example, it might be something like a hydrating foundation, something like that. There are lots of options out there. And again, makeup artists, hopefully if they’re worth their salt, they have options like this in their kit. But preparation is key, maybe especially so for dry people. So you’re going to need something to cleanse the face. Again, something gentle like this. The bioderma will do a great job. A peel pad, something to gently exfoliate. Still really ideal for somebody who has dry skin. Dry skin tends to get more buildup and kind of like flakes on the surface of the skin that will not look pretty under foundation trust. Once you’ve exfoliated, then you want to go in with a serum. Again, those ceramide serums are really super helpful for maintaining the moisture barrier so that your skin does not interact with your complexion products. After that, you’re going to usually want a richer moisturizer depending on how dry you are. There’s a lot of different options. Some makeup artists will even use oils. Those can be really beautiful for dry skin especially. Yeah, if you’re a combo, then your artist actually kind of has to treat each section of your face a little bit differently. They should know that ideally they do. If they don’t reach out to me, I can totally help. But yeah, it’s going to kind of be different depending on you. Same with lips. Lips has less variability, but most folks are going to need some kind of exfoliation on the lip. We don’t want dry crusties like lip peeling that looks gross and weird in photos. You’re going to want some kind of lip priming option. There are lip primers on the market that will actually give you a little hydration and help keep product in place longer. After you’ve primed, you’re going to want to do or your makeup artist will want to do lining. Lining provides a base for any lip product to stay on longer. On top of it, if you’ve worn liner before, you’ve probably already noticed that. And then if you’re really concerned about longevity, a liquid lip is going to give you the best longevity, but it can also give you some dryness. So if you’re already prone to dryness, it may not actually be the best choice for you. If you are super, super concerned about longevity, like you just really want to be perfected from the moment of your wedding until you close down that bar at your reception, then what I would say is book your artist for touchups. You will have way less to think about. You won’t have to think about if your lipstick still looks perfect because they’ll be able to help you. I hope that helps.

How much time should I plan for hair/makeup services?

Q: How much time should I plan for hair/makeup services?


1 hour per service is your sweet spot. And here’s why. I have a team of over 20 artists. We have played with every timeline known to man. Yes, we can do a service in 30 minutes. We can do a service in 45 minutes. However, the 1 hour sweet spot is perfect, because what it does is it allows a little wiggle room in case something goes wrong. It allows for someone being a couple of minutes late to the chair. It allows for being thrown a curveball and somebody wanting a more intricate look. It allows time for us to wash our brushes and reset in between. And also, it helps you to feel pampered, because you are not just a number to us. We want you to feel pampered. We want to give you the time and attention that you deserve, that you’re paying for. And each service, in addition to obviously doing the upstyle or doing the makeup look, we have to do a proper consultation with each person, talk about what their comfort level is, what they’re envisioning. We like to go through their inspiration photos and discuss what it is they like about the inspiration photos because there’s a little time that needs to be allotted for that, because the picture can say a thousand words. So we need to make sure that we’re clear what you’re communicating with us. It also allows ample time for those foundational techniques. So if you have an artist that’s like, no, I can whip it out in 30 minutes, and they’re trying to cram as many people as they can, probably so that they can make some more money, then what you run is the risk of that look not holding. Because there are certain things that take time. There are certain foundational techniques we need to do to make sure that curls hold, that pins stay, that makeup lasts. There is one caveat if you are desiring a more intricate style, you have hair extensions. You want a Hollywood glam wave? You want that instagram makeup. Then you’ll want to allow some more time, probably an hour and 15 minutes to an hour and 30 minutes, even 2 hours. Whatever your artist suggests, go with that. But again, be forewarned. If they’re saying they can do people and 30 to 45 minutes, that to me, would be a red flag.


Should I get a spray tan before my wedding? When? Dos and don’t?

Q: Should I get a spray tan before my wedding? When? Do's and don’ts?


Spray tans are one of those love em or leave em type of things. I personally love them, and here’s why. I feel that a nice little spray tan can go so far for helping you to look beautiful in photos. I love beautiful skin at any tone, but something about a spray tan against a white or cream dress just looks absolutely beautiful. However, there are some things to keep in mind. I definitely recommend you want to try it out ahead of time and try a couple of different people, because not all spray tans are created equal. There’s different application techniques, and also a lot of spray tan artists have custom formulas that are like their proprietary blend. So I highly recommend trying a couple out. Finding your person. I recommend for the week of the wedding, getting that spray tan three days in advance. I think that’s the perfect amount of time to have it still looking fresh, but not so fresh that it’s getting on everything. And on that note, you will need to be prepared that it still will rub off on your dress regardless of when you get it. So if that’s a deal breaker for you, then you won’t want to get a spray tan. Another thing that can be kind of a controversial topic is whether or not to have your face spray tanned. I’m in the camp of, yes, please have your face spray tanned and actually do an extra coat. Our face has lots of oils, and typically we wash it more often or more vigorously so the spray tan can fade faster. And as a makeup artist, it makes my job so much easier if you have that spray tan on the face and the body, because then it matches. Some spray tan artists don’t spray the face, and what it does is it creates more work for us as makeup artists, because then we’re having to really level up your foundation to match your body. Another benefit of being spray tanned is that your teeth look wider. Just saying. Lastly, here’s a little bonus for getting your spray tan is it can even out your tan lines from summer. So if you have a highly skilled spray tan artist, yes, they are capable of evening this out, which makes all the difference in your photos.


How do I talk to my mom, who never wears makeup, about her hair and makeup for the wedding? I would like for her to get hers done but she doesn’t think she needs it.

Q: How do I talk to my mom, who never wears makeup, about her hair and makeup for the wedding? I would like for her to get hers done but she doesn’t think she needs it.


Moms are just as much a VIP as the bride. What I will say to you is this your wedding is an amazing opportunity for you to get closer to your mom relationship, build with her, and have conversations about beauty. Up until probably the last ten to 15 years, hair and makeup was typically passed down from mother to daughter. That’s who we learned from. And if you weren’t shown own how to do your own hair and makeup, then typically it’s not something that you ever learned. Now, it’s a little different with Instagram and YouTube, but you have to remember that all the generations before us didn’t have access to it. So most likely, if your mom isn’t comfortable doing her own hair and makeup, it’s just that she’s never been taught to, and now she has years and years of not seeing herself in that light, and that’s okay. I would just invite you to approach her with compassion and love and again, use this as an opportunity to build a relationship. I think that that getting ready time in the morning is one of the most beautiful moments of your wedding, where you can have that girl time, because once the wedding starts, you’re focused on your groom and your guests and all the festivities that go along with it. But that getting ready time is such an intimate space. So I would talk to your mom about wanting to share an experience with her. Make it about the relationship, make it about the memories and the experience you want to share with her. And that will help to take a little bit of the stress off of it being about what she looks like, or it being about the hair and makeup services specifically. Let her know this is an opportunity for her to be pampered and her to be included, and it’s just something you want to share with her. A last thought I will leave you with. We have had the honor of doing makeup for so many moms and grandmas and aunties. I’m getting emotional even thinking about it. But when these people move on, when they’re no longer with us and we’re pulling pictures to memorialize our time with them here on this earth, oftentimes we look to those wedding photos. And it means so much when I have my brides reach out and share to me that they’re so thankful that their mom got the makeup services and they’ve never seen them look so beautiful, and they have that photo for the rest of their lives. So I just leave you with that. It’s a really special time. It’s tender moments in the mornings before your big day, and it truly is an experience that will last a lifetime.


What kind of space, and what do I need to provide, for hair and makeup on the wedding morning?

Q: What kind of space, and what do I need to provide, for hair and makeup on the wedding morning?


This is a question you definitely want to ask your individual artists, but the fact that you’re clicking on this question that you even care tells me you are the exact types of brides that we like to work with. So thank you. Thank you from whoever your artist is. I love that you’re already thinking about this. Some of the things that we ask our brides to keep in mind are to make sure to have plenty of table space for the makeup artists. Coffee tables don’t necessarily work because it’s really hard on our backs to keep reaching down. I mean, if you think about how many times we’re grabbing for products, that would mean we’d be reaching down like, 50 to 60 times throughout the day. So they need to be counter height. Our team, we bring our own chairs and our own makeup lights, so really that table space is key. And then also something to think about for both hair and makeup is just ample space. I think a lot of times our brides don’t think about how many people are actually going to be in the room, so just allowing extra space and access to outlets. And then another thing to think about is to provide an area that’s away from exit or walkways, because that can be a little tricky. And then here is my little pro tip for you. I highly recommend choosing someone who is going to be responsible for answering the door. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve had to step away to let somebody into the room, because we’re polite people and we’re going to serve. So if there’s a need, we’re going to meet it. But it really can interrupt the flow of the hair and makeup for the big day.


What should I do if I don’t like my hair trial?

Q:What should I do if I don't like my hair trial?


This is a multifaceted question, and here’s why. There are a couple of things that I would ask the bride first, to be able to better give her some advice. First would be, was it an execution issue, like an issue of technique, or was it about miscommunication? And the look that was desired wasn’t delivered. So in the first scenario, the question would be, okay, the execution, the delivery, were the lashes falling off or glue showing? Was the foundation mismatched? For hair, it might be, did the curls not hold? Were the pins showing? So those are more about technique and execution. And so in that case, you might have somebody who’s just not up to the skill level that you desire. But on the other side of that is communication. So something I always talk to brides about is that the inspiration photos you choose communicate 1000 words. And if your hairstylist or makeup artist isn’t asking a lot of questions about those pictures, then they could be getting the wrong message. Something you can do on your end is, when you’re choosing those inspiration photos, make sure that the person looks like you. Sometimes we’re drawn to those inspiration photos because it’s a beautiful model, but you want to make sure they have the face shape, the skin tone, even the age of you, as well as the hair type. So those are some things to look for and think about. And then also, when you were at your trial with your artist, were they asking questions about the picture? Because I cannot tell you how many times a bride will show me a macro image of an eye. Like a close up, right? And they’re like, oh, my God, I love this. And I will dissect that picture with them. I will ask, okay, what do you love about it? Oh, I just think it’s really pretty. And I love how the eye is just really popping. But I’ll continue to ask questions. Okay, what do you think about the eyeshadow color? Oh, my gosh, I love it. What do you think about the glitter? Not really a fan of glitter. Okay. What do you think about the eyeliner? I love it. But maybe not top and bottom. Meanwhile, the picture has, like, top and bottom liner. What do you think about the lashes? What do you think about the brows? So I’m literally dissecting that picture with them. So if your artist didn’t do that, then that tells me there might be an opportunity for you to maybe do another trial and get on the same page. So there’s a third component I want to talk to you about. So when listening to this, if your situation was on the side that maybe the execution and the technique wasn’t there. We need to have a real conversation about budget, because I cannot tell you how many times we will get a bride with a champagne taste on a beer budget. And we all know those exist. So if you have chosen to go with somebody that is a lower price point, and you made that choice because you’re working within a budget, then sometimes concessions have to be made. Sometimes you’re going to get maybe a less experienced artist who needs a second trial to properly match your foundation. Doesn’t mean they can’t do it. It just might take them a little longer to get exactly what you’re wanting. So just keep that in mind. I hope this helps. Thanks for checking in on these questions. I love it. And I can’t wait to see you on the next one.


Should I wear my veil all day?

Q: Should I wear my veil all day?


Here’s the planner perspective on the veil. I love a veil. They’re absolutely gorgeous. But the problem is when you get to the part of your day, like cocktail hour where you’re interacting with guests, everybody’s hugging you, and the first thing that they do is throw their arms around you and it smacks your veil and it rips your head back and it sucks and it’s annoying and it ruins your hair. So all of my brides who have decided to wear their veil, I’m usually carrying it by the end of cocktail hour because they’ve had enough. So just keep that in mind in case if you do want to keep it on for your first dance, take it off the cocktails, put it back for your first dance. I think that’s probably better because you’re going to get annoyed.

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